March 14, 2023

Motherhood life :2nd week of March 2023

16th March 2023 :Her progress at 6 months

1. She can sit on with 2 hands support her body

2. Her cries is much louder and more intense, LOL

3. She is more expressive

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For eg, she would look at the object sharply if she is interested on that thing

She would also move her mouth during our meal time

4. She can hold her bottle now, although not very consistent still.

5. Her kicks and finger graps is more powerful now. She would kick while crying in the midnight. Sometimes my milk got kick out when she kicked my chest. LOL

16th March 2023 :Her first nightmare

Yee Xuan was having a nightmare yesterday. This is also the first time she had a nightmare. It was around 5am in the morning. She whined and increasing shout , I thought that she was hungry. Since my breast is also swollen with milk, I thought I might as well feed her to comfort her to sleep.

Then when we were in the position, she didnt go and suck, which she would usually do. Then I realised she was shouting with her eyes closed.

She shouted for few minutes until my lao gong also awoke. He turned on the yellow sleeping then after few rounds of shouting then only she subsided and went back to sleep.

She didnt arch her body like she usually does. Which further confirm that ..she wasn't asking for milk.

During her episode of shouting, she did turn her entire body like trying to free to something.

12th March 2023 Weekend at home

I bought the pink story book because of the cute cover. Yee Xuan is still too young to understand. It was just that clearly she enjoys interacting with her father or maybe enjoy interacting with people.

I sit like a boss because I can.

coz I am the boss in the house

Previously I was away from home from every weekend, pay visit to my father in hospital. Now Finally , I can eat the home-cooked food by Chef Wei Sheng!

12th March 2023 - was the first time I get to drink 泡参汤. Like Finally..... because I wasn't allow to drink this during the pregnancy . Finally when baby Yee Xuan's 6th month. I drank it.

12th March 2023 - was also the first time I get to bubble tea after pregnancy and giving birth. It was so damn sweet! Like so disgustingly sweet. I love to drink bubble milk tea before I pregnant. Then I realised after you are not doing it for awhile. Then you wont miss it at all.

10th March 2023 Friday

Hoay and Long come from Kemaman. Because it was Heng's big day.

He is now a 包租公 already. Really to collect money from his tenant!

Yee Xuan and her dearest 二姨。

andthe Kok 5 sibligns. WHo do you think is the eldest?

March 3, 2023

为什么我希望我孩子的第一语言是中文？

看了一篇家长写的文章，我也有感而发。

文章Link ：https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid02F1ddYLxLmydRpTYXQ1CLy7wJadhKxJcwm5szutTaRcVFwMeJJMmqBvi2rT6fkXnyl&id=100065116266017&mibextid=Nif5oz

我上华小，中学有拿中文（SPM 拿到3B）大学选修英文科（English Linguistic）

出来社会后发现到会中英文真的有很多extra advantage. 因为会bilingual 所以我可以教banana中文，也可以教华人英文。

在这里先说明：

大学学linguistic的时候， Lecturer有讲过。 The main purpose of language is to communicate, to get your idea through. So there is no such thing as which language is more superior than any other language. It is the people’s culture who speak in that language set up the perception /definition about the language.

回来回来。。。

现在有孩子了，我的计划是以后孩子上华小，学中文。

中学时，就看孩子自己本身的兴趣在决定要去Sekolah Menengah Kebangsaan or Private international school.

小孩子的first language 一定是中文

如果你的孩子在critical age (can refer to Critical period hypothesis) 吸收能力最厉害的时候学是比较理想的（没有对错，只是比较容易学）

The critical period hypothesis (CPH) states that the first few years of life constitute the time during which language develops readily and after which (sometime between age 5 and puberty) language acquisition is much more difficult and ultimately less successful.

其他为什么我希望我孩子的第一语言是中文。。。

1. 中文是世界上among 4169 language …that has writing system 最难学的语言。（more than 7100 speaking languages）。我本身有教幼儿园和小学中文。中文教起来会比bahasa and English more effort. 就说最简单的 “一” 和“口”好了，

“一”的笔画是 #横# ，如果我要很完美的教的话，横的笔顺一定是from left to right, cannot be from right to left.

“口” 是三个不同的笔画，不是一个笔画。。。画一个square。

如果你孩子写错笔顺并不急（还好我小学有一本作业专门学笔顺）， 4-6岁的hand motor skills，主要先学会抓笔，只是有机会还是要纠正。我小时候的“口” 也是从画一个square写出来的。其他的语言A-z , 1-9 是没有笔顺的。

所以小孩子会把学A-z , 1-9 的方式用在学中文字，忽视笔顺也是很自然的事。这是Language transfer Theory

就好像我们华人不明在为什么动词（verb）还要分past tense, present tense 还有perfect tenses. (真正来说有16种tenses)

再来，我在教Banana时，我的学生也是不明白为什么华文要有阴阳上去，我每次都有解释，然后他就会回一句说： “ Why learning Chinese is so hard? ” 😅😅😅 但是如果我们是CHinese speaker 的话，阴阳上去对我们来说是很自然的东西。

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一句话讲完，中文是4000多种语言里面最难学的语言， critical age学会比较理想。

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# Reason 2

2. I teach Mandarin to Banana (English as first Language ) too. When I teach them Mandarin, the main purpose is only too learn how to communicate in that particular language rather than learning the culture in that language.

中华文化，博大精深。

因为我会华语，我看的懂很多中国好看的综艺节目

会欣赏方文山的歌词，（如。。。缘分一道桥）当初听到这首歌的时候，很庆幸自己会中文，如果我不会中文的话，那么我就错过了一首好歌了。

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虽然我不会decode文言文，但是学习文言文真的可以明白当代诗人、笔者的想法，也可以学习那个语言的文化。

如果长大后学中文，只要是掌握的communication 而已。比如说商人学中文mainly for business purpose, 其他时间都用来经营生意了，比较不会欣赏语言的美

中华文化，博大精深。

礼义廉耻

三字经

中国历史。。。朝代。。。

三国演义。。。

西游记。。。

琴棋书画。。。

没有学习到中文的美，只是利用中文学会沟通而已。。。

我会觉得我孩子不会这些。。。真的很可惜。

My personal experience:

学华语，学中文的人会比较收敛，比较听话, 比较一板一眼。

因为华小的老师都很注重discipline ,

然后也会给很多功课，

然后会要求把完成的功课教上来，

所以把我train到很会听话。

因为填鸭式的学习，

我们会比较没有机会学习表达，

think less critically ,

比较不会跳出框框。

但是这个无妨，

因为我上了大学后，一直被要求做presentation ,

做assignment ，然后参与很多活动，生活营，脑力激荡，

间接地把我train 成跳出思想的框框。

另外，现在时代不同了，主要是看老师怎么教。而且现在的作业真的有encourage students to think creatively, critically (and freely and randomly, hahaha).

现在的小学，中学除了上课之外，

也有各式各样的活动。

这就是为什么我想让我孩子学习中文as the first language.

往后她要往哪个语言发展都没有问题。

主要是把华语的基础打好。

学习英文看youtube , 看cocomelon , 买故事书。。。还有很多学习英文管道，不难。

January 15, 2023

January 2022 :The discovery of my pregnancy

I am so thankful that our dream comes true!

I am also thankful that the embryo is safe and sound in my womb!

Because I experienced miscarriage before, so I amquite concern about the safety.

28th Jan 2022 - TFT Test

Went to do TFT (Thyroid function test). The results came out 2 days later. My T4 was drastically low 1 (normal range is 9-14). My husband asked me to go check with doctor see is there a need to confirm the dosage or not.

30th Jan 2022 - Went to see Dr. Yogi from HOspital Umra

Hello, little gestational sac and york sac that is going to nourish my little precious embryo/foetus and baby! Can't wait to see you growing up soon!

I promised that I will take good care of myself by

1. eat properly

2.Getting enough rest and sleep.

7th Feb 2022 - Week 6 Day 3 - Difficult sleeping

I couldn't sleep well last night. Normally, i can sleep through the night until the daylight, until my alarm rings.

Actually, it has been few times that I awoke in the middleof the night, but I could just easily go back to sleep after a few turnings.

But yesterday...

I not sure if it because of the light of the Handphone ,

the changing hormone in my body

I think I have been lying and turning back and forth for 2 hours. There was like a gas ball kept moving inside my body. Whatever I did was just not right.

I covered myself with blanket , soon, i remove it.

Then

covered myself with blanket , then remove it again

then it keeps repeating.

My sleeping pose kept changing. Turn 360 degree on the bed, then sat on the floor , head lied on the bed and sleep, and crawl to the toilet, and sleep in the toilet. Then went back to the bed and sleep.

At one point, i felt very frustrated and woke up and cried. Then went back to sleep again.

So the next morning, I decided that I must do some exercise/workout so that the qi (the gas ball) can escape and won't kacau me again. (won't distrub my sleep)

I am so eternally grateful for this. Thinking about this makes me think that this (This 2022 pregnancy) is going to be a healthy, safe pregnancy. FYI, I had miscarriage on July 2021.

That's when we started to actively seeking help to regain my healthy, recovery from mini confinement , went to see TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) to see if my body is fit enough for the next pregnancy and to cultivate warmer, comfortable womb.

The TCM we got after seeing doctor. It is quite convenient to drink, just warm it, and you can drink it. I enjoy drinking it cause I actually like to drink herbal soup.

From July 2021 - Jan 2022 - We actually went to see 2 different TCM doctors/shin seh. I am also not sure if it is the Chinese Medicine that helps us to get pregnant or ...our willingness ....or combined. I mean...how do you judge it?

To be frank, one of my 2022 wish lists is to get a harimau baby虎宝宝 aka Tiger baby. !

So I am really over the cloud that it comes at the right time, after the booster dose.

and

I and my baby would stay healthy!

Last menstrual period (First day) : 23rd December 2021

Booster Injection Day : 30th Dec 2021

The day I discovered pregnancy - 27th Jan 2022

Gestational age - 4 weeks 4 days (4 weeks + 4 )

Actual age of baby at the discovery - 2 weeks + 4

Gestational age is counted from the Last Menstrual period.

I feel damn lucky that I have the booster right before we made the baby.

That being said, by using the standard .........Day 14 is ovulation in period cycle,............. then we actually made the baby on 5th Jan (counting 14 days from the LMP)

January 8, 2023

Kaw Kaw Pak Kopi @ Taman Megah, Petaling Jaya

I first drawrn to Kaw Kaw Pak Kopi for their name. 'Kaw Kaw' means very thick and concentrated coffee / tea in Malaysian Chinese.

My husband dabao (bought) their signature Teh Air for me. We instantly like how their teh ais literally spelling their name... very Kaw / very flavoursome.

After dabao for a few times, we decided to try to dine in their shop, intrigue by their other pastries and food as well.

Their signautre :

Kaw Kaw Kopi

Kaw Kaw Teh Ais

Dense Kampung Egg Tart

I woudl usually prefer portugese tart more than egg tart. Portugese tart is more rich and dense, but I am okay with the egg tart here. It was quite tasty compare to many other egg tarts I have tried before.

Roasted Pork Nasi Lemak Rm 13.80

Basically, you can expect to have the Malaysian CHinese typical food, except chicken rice, hahaha

When I look at their menu, I feel that this is a traditional Chinese restaurant origin from Kampar, Perak.

Glutinous rice pair with curry, is a local food from Kampar.

Curry Chee CHeong Fun is also very common in Kampar.

See, another proof that this is a traditional Malaysian Chinese style Hawker center eatery.

See, the pickled green chillies and sambal and soy sauce are served on every table to enrich your Malaysian palate.

Usually, this kind of food are found in Hawker center or Cha Shi 茶室 without no air-cond. So this place has the vibe of upgraded Cha Shi feeling.

Which is great of people like family like us. Because we don't to bring our children to an eatery which is congested and feeling hot inside the stroller.