Death....something which is very hard to process.
I mean it is easy...but it was just very heart-broken to process/to confront it.
As I was having lunch, I thought about the passing away of my sister's puppy, Little cute Sushi. (I got the news yesterday)
I realised that death is quite common in our daily life.
I mean none of us like it.
But it was really very common...as in it takes place in our daily ordinary life. Since it is very common , why do we still feeling heart broken?
I recall the quite recent ones.....
The passing away of Christopher, my high school mate , not keeping in touch all the time, but quite closed I consider
The passing away of Lee Guang Ming...this was so sudden... I wish he would always he healthy, up and safe. He was such a great figure to the community. We are not very closed, but again I can be quite open when speaking to him
Then...
dated back to some older ones...
To be honest, it took me like one week/ one month to grieve over about it.
But now when I think about it...
I am not really that sad.... (I even forgot the date of my miscarriage)
perhaps that's because I have got my baby Yee Xuan growing healthily next to me...
Some older passing away ..like the passing away of WS's pet . 2 very cute tortoises.
Looking past all of these passing away... I realised that it is quite a common things in our daily life.
Even it means it is something very heart broken to us....
THen I wonder....
I also had my grandma...grandpa passed away at my younger age...
Why didnt I feel very very heart broken one ar?
I was just feeling sad...then I moved on already.....
THe only reason that I managed to figure out was that the death of them doesn't impact our life...so we can move on quite fast......
However, I still don't understand....
I didnt feel so heart broken like this (Sushi) when my grandma passed away....
What's the reason?
Was it because I have grown up?
Was it because the grown up can put themselves better in other people's shoes? So we can feel how people feel? or..is it because we know how vulnerable /fearful they are?
hmmm.....please tell me...
I dont have a solid answer to this....
I am wondering why....
Anyway, those who are in the heaven now will forever be in my heart. Irreplacable. Thank you for coming to my life.
I hope all of you would have a better life in any world you are. Forever in my heart.
Answer to it:
The answer from my senior friend, Kim Low. She is a very passionate public speaking trainer!
Don't think we accept death because it is common. It is what they call acceptance stage of grieving. We human are survivors. Our brains will eventually tells us that we need to move on from something we cannot control death and emotionally we accept it.
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